Wedding was great. Leaving for honeymoon on a 6AM flight this morning, which was not our first choice as far as flight times... but should be fun anyway. Probably won't be blogging until we're back on the 7th, but who knows...
Wedding was great. Leaving for honeymoon on a 6AM flight this morning, which was not our first choice as far as flight times... but should be fun anyway. Probably won't be blogging until we're back on the 7th, but who knows...
I should be sleeping, but I'm getting excited.
Plus, I went to sleep at 9PM, so I've actually gotten 6 hours of sleep already.
In 12 hours, I'll be married!
Looks like we made it into the New York Times wedding section.
We originally sent them a different picture that I liked better:
This post is long. The quick version: I think celebrities/thought leaders, major or minor, should start their own publishing imprints, taking print-on-demand and e-book technologies to pretty much eliminate all of the traditional costs involved in the model, and if I actually knew any of these kinds of people, I'd be trying to convince them that they should hire me to help them do this. :) I've just summarized the last paragraph of this post. The rest of the post will get you there...
There was a New York Times article earlier this week about Scribd, which lets authors upload books and charge for them, in PDF format or for an iPhone reader. And of course there's sites like Lulu.com, which let people self-publish a book, and allow print on demand, so you can get an actual physical book sent to you. And then there's this article (and the comments) about an author who released his book on the Kindle for $1.99 (instead of the usual $9.99 new-book price) and found that after he posted the link on some message boards, a couple hundred people a day were buying it just because it was cheap.
My wedding is a week from today!
I haven't blogged about the planning nearly as much as I expected I would, partly because it's mostly not that dramatic, partly because I've been trying to write a play that mines a lot of this territory, and partly because most of what I've learned is that, even more than I realized beforehand, my decision-making process basically involves asking what option costs the least amount of money and then trying to make up reasons why that's the best choice for every reason other than price. ("Everyone knows a two-piece band sounds nicer than a nine-piece band." / "Who really wants a cake made out of edible ingredients?" / "Wouldn't it be unique and special to have centerpieces made of rocks and twigs instead of flowers?") I'm exaggerating, but not that much. Clearly this makes me impossibly frustrating to make decisions with, and despite recognizing this, I don't know that my self-awareness makes me any easier.
I mean, I absolutely care about the pieces that count -- I want the wedding to be nice, I want the pictures to be nice, I want people to have a good time, I want to feel happy and excited and good about the day -- but there are so many trivial pieces that ultimately no one would ever notice or care about, but if you're not careful you can end up spending an unlimited amount of money on pretty much anything. Invitations, programs, flowers, cake, anything -- it can all cost anywhere from not that much to infinity. And it somehow feels bad to me -- in a way that I guess it doesn't feel bad to that many people -- that the real point of what's going on can easily get buried underneath all the fondant. The wedding is about getting together everyone we care about and celebrating that we found each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together and share the future. A friend of mine, a bunch of years ago before I met Nina or anything like that, when he was talking about his own relationship, said that he felt commitment was like putting a stake in the ground and saying this is the person I want to be in the foxhole with, when stuff happens, no matter what it is, no matter how we have to deal with it, this is who I want to be with and who I want on my side, together, figuring it all out. That stuck with me, I liked that image. So, like, that should be what the wedding's about, to me. About having found that, and getting everyone we care about (and some relatives we're under legal obligation to include) together to celebrate it.
And yet too much of it ends up being about the color of the table linens.
I think what's strange to me is that if there's some long continuum of what a wedding could look like, from 15 people in a backyard having a potluck lunch off paper plates to 200 people in a hotel ballroom wearing fancy clothes and eating on actual dishes (and of course I'm sure it can get a lot fancier than that, but I just haven't been to those kinds of weddings), every wedding I've been to or heard about has been at just about the same part of the continuum, and there hasn't been much variation. I'm surprised more people don't have backyard barbeque weddings. But then I think maybe I'm just missing something, and there's a reason everyone wants their wedding to be fancy and cost real money, instead of being simple and easy. And then, sort of like with law firms, I realize maybe there isn't a reason, and it's just what people do, and I'm just weird for not caring whether we have flowers in the middle of the table, or marshmallows.
In any case, all of this is overshadowed by the fact that I'm super-excited that it's just a week away, and then I get to be married. Which is neat.
Interesting piece on the credit crisis, written by an economics reporter for the Times who ended up with a subprime mortgage and massive debt.
My grandma turned 93 today. It's been a tough year for her. Things haven't gotten a lot better since her stroke about a year ago. Fortunately, they haven't gotten worse either, and she's been pretty stable. But it's still awfully sad and frustrating, and it's been a real loss. She knows who I am, and her long-term memory isn't bad -- she remembers things from her past, she remembers fundamental things about the world and her life and, in the moment, she makes a lot of sense and can carry on a conversation. But her short-term memory isn't there, and new information just doesn't stick for more than a few seconds. So every day, it's the same conversation, more or less, at least on her end, changed only based on however it is I respond."
...and why I have no sympathy for magazines that can't find a way to make money now that we have the Internet. ...And this story doesn't even really have anything to do with the Internet, it's just about running your business in a sensible way and coordinating everything you're doing and not screwing around with your customers!
Not the blog. This is staying in the same location. Tomorrow my fiancee and I move into an apartment in Manhattan. This way she can be close to the hospital for her 168-hour weeks as a resident. A lot of errand-running this past week, with the move tomorrow and the wedding three weeks away. I've started playing around with a play about wedding planning. I like what I have so far. The little details of this stuff have inspired more inside of me than the big things -- picking a venue, eh, it's not that interesting... but picking the font on the invitations, now that inspires a treasure trove of material.
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